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Two weeks later I was invited to a party at a neighbor, they were all chefs and not att all intrested in vehicles. How ever one In the short space of the last few lines of her poem, Pastan more vividly expresses than we have managed in far more space, to hammer home the notion that the stages do not—and must not be expected to—apply generally to bereaved persons, that to suppose this can have a devastating impact:.
These reactions are typically associated with the early days following the loss of a loved one cf. Bowlby, Thomas Hardy — portrays the sudden change of life circumstances following a death, in these lines from The Going :. Shock, numbness, and emptiness of the early days of bereavement I think are brilliantly portrayed by Emily Dickinson. The opening lines from John Dryden's — Threnodia Augustalis , commemorating the death of Charles II in , also depict the stunned shock of recent bereavement. Niobe was the prototype of a bereaved mother, weeping for the loss of her children; from Greek mythology :.
The following poem by Witter Bynner — , Death of a Friend , not only conveys numbness, it also gives the sense of mechanical, unfeeling action during bereavement: 6.
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Walter de la Mare — captures children's bewilderment, going through the motions assigned to them by the adults in The Funeral :. A contrasting portrayal, but a similar reaction of just going rather blindly through the motions: Amy Lowell — closed her poem Patterns with the stanzas: 7.
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Note the brief mention of looking beyond at the end—which brings us as a final example in this, to the next section:. Not surprisingly, researchers have found that as time goes on, positive emotions tend to appear or become more often experienced. It is evident, though, that Table 1 , which was intended to span the whole duration of the acute grief period, listed only negative emotions.
Have we neglected positive reactions incorporated in grief 8? There are some reasons to argue that this may be the case. Although we need—first-and-foremost I would argue—to understand the negative reactions which cause problems in order to provide appropriate help , positive reactions may be integral to the adaptation process.
It has now been documented that, even during the most harrowing days of acute grieving, bereaved persons may seek balance by focusing on positive aspects, despite all that they have lost, and that this actually gives them strength to carry on. The power of such positive thinking has even been built into one of the foremost models of coping with bereavement, namely cognitive stress theory see Folkman, So how are positive feelings reflected among the poets?
I interpret the following lines by Edmund Spenser about — as a ray of hope—finding positive meaning in devastating loss:. The following, which I think is a fairly well-known entreaty by Christina Rossetti — , eases the griever away from agony toward the more positive and offers forgiveness for forgetting :. The poets have spoken for themselves, and I have already added comments linking their verses to academic sources.
Having selected loneliness to set the stage for this enterprise, I would like to end with a coupled theme, namely, ongoing ties the related area of research on continuing bonds was pioneered by the late Nigel Field; for review: Field, I do so with a personal touch, including the closing lines with which my daughter Katherine and I gave tribute following our own bereavement in: Portrait of Lizzie, Sister and Aunt unpublished. We noted:. This poem has been chosen to close our album, because it depicts a continued connection, an ongoing bond, an abiding sense of the presence of a deceased loved person.
It was written in , in the United States, by Mary Elizabeth Frye, inspired by the plight of a young German Jewish woman who, because of political unrest, could not return to Germany, to her mother who was ill. I maintain that, while scientists are dedicated to exploring the nature and mal adaptive functions of grief reactions such as continuing bonds to guide further research and practice, a poetic rendering such as the well-known one included above provides us with the metaphors to experience ongoing attachment, to help us understand and find a place for the loss in our ongoing professional and personal lives.
She has specialized in the field of bereavement research for many years. Rumination finds illustration in the remarkably still-topical C17th words of de la Bruyere — : Grief that is dazed and speechless is out of fashion: the modern woman mourns her husband loudly and tells you the whole story of his death, which distresses her so much that she forgets not the slightest detail about it. Lewis's — opening words in A Grief Observed : No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning.
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Shakespeare — , from Macbeth Grief, keep within and scorn to show but tears , Since joy can weep as well as thou , Disdain to sigh, for so can slender cares , Which but from idle causes grow. John Danyel — No, don't stop writing your grievous poetry. It will do you good, this work of your grief. Keep writing till there is nothing left. It will take time, and the years will go by. Douglas Dunn, on his wife's death, from the poem December in Elegies Light griefs can speak; great ones are dumb Seneca 4 B. The Background to My Preoccupation With Grief Poetry I would like to say up front, in giving a little historical background to my fascination: In general, poetry was never a strong interest of mine.
The Decision to Write This Article Nevertheless, perhaps it was the feeling of unfinished business, combined with a firm belief not proof!
Bereavement and Grief Following the classic contribution of Averill , we have defined bereavement as the objective situation of a person who has recently experienced the death of someone significant, while grief is subjective emotion, a complex phenomenon relating to the variety of psychological, behavioral, social, and physical reactions following the death of a loved one cf. Table 1. Open in a separate window. Scientific Descriptions: The Example of Loneliness How do scientists describe grief reactions, that is, beyond the categorization presented earlier?
Shuchter and Zisook , reviewing what is known about the nature of normal grief, described how, following spousal loss … the reality of being alone and the intensity of one's loneliness emerge and, over time, become a powerful force. Missing the Loved One Loneliness, yearning, and despair To revisit the reaction illustrated above in scientific accounts: Loneliness is wonderfully well portrayed by the poets. As illustrated next, she put her talent to expressing deep grief-related feelings compellingly, in very few words—with the last couplet below transporting one into her desolate world: My life closed twice before its close— It yet remains to see If immortality unveil A third event to me.
So huge, so hopeless to conceive As these that twice befell. Parting is all we know of heaven , And all we need of hell.
Perhaps desolation should be highlighted more in our scientific accounts: Thus sung Orpheus to his strings , When he was almost slain , Whilst the winds, soft murmuring , Answered all his woes again : Ah, dear Eurydice, he cried; Ah, dear Eurydice-and so he died. Ah, dear Eurydice the echoing winds replied.